Support for Men
If you are a man facing an unplanned pregnancy with your girlfriend or spouse, this section of our site is for you. If you are a man providing friendship and support to a woman with an unplanned pregnancy, you may also find the following information helpful.
Our goal is twofold: (1) to help you support the woman, and (2) to support you as you navigate a complex, and potentially challenging time in your life. The fact that you are reading this is a step in the right direction; instead of leaving her to deal with the pregnancy on her own or pressuring her into a decision, you are gaining information that will help both of you through the challenges ahead.
“I thought she was on birth control!”
According to statistics from the Centers for Disease Control (CDC), almost half of all pregnancies in the U.S. are unplanned, and over half of those unplanned pregnancies occur in spite of contraceptive use. Even with correct and consistent use of contraceptive methods such as birth control pills and condoms, unplanned pregnancies still occur.
You can see for yourself, unplanned pregnancies occur even when two people think they are taking precautions to prevent it. Even though the temptation to place blame can be strong, it is not helpful at this point. You each have a lot to deal with right now.
The Emotional Tempest
It is normal for you to be feeling a host of emotions:
These are just some of the powerful and at times painful emotions that you may feel in response to an unplanned pregnancy. The best thing to do is not to stuff these emotions under the proverbial rug; instead, get support. Find someone whom you trust to talk with, or call LivingWell. We are not here just for women. You do not have to let these emotions be your only focus; however, it is important to work through them rather than to repress them, which is unhealthy and can further complicate things down the road.
It is important to try to help her work through her emotions as well. The best advice is to:
- Encourage her to talk through her feelings
- Listen without criticizing even if you do not understand what she is feeling
- Help her find support—bringing her to LivingWell or having her call our hotline is a great start – 714-633-HOPE.